Getting a haircut..๐Ÿ˜…

I have always wanted long hair since the time I could remember but was not courageous enough to ask my mother or my father if I could do it. Long hair=vagabonds, my father and mother had always thought and that keeping long hair would cause me to distract myself. So I went to the barber with my father every-time we had to take a haircut and we sat through whatever haircuts he would order the barber to cut. It was always, short hair, shorter than the last time. Haha. Me and my brother never questioned our father because we never had any time to think about the style of our hair. Whether it was school or any party, our hair was set by either my mother or my father. It was so that even today, my Nani asks if Harsh has started combing his own hair. Haha. Those were good times. But as school ended and I entered college, things started to change. I was still that innocent boy from school but everyone around me started to tell me things that were in their language off about me. For example, I would wear really lose clothes, so lose that my jeans appeared as track pants, I had hair so short that I didnโ€™t need any combing most of the times, I dressed too simple. Getting into a college after a school is a completely different thing. For 17 years I had worn the same uniform everyday, except Tuesday and Friday that were Sports Day in my school. I never had to choose between how the clothes would match with one another or if they looked good on me. I never cared for how I looked because that wasnโ€™t important for me. I remember on the first day of my college, it was the orientation day and I called my other friend to ask what we were to wear. Was there any dress-code or any uniform that we had to buy from a shop the college had recommended. I remember then asking my mother to take out clothes for me to wear that day. I was so nervous about the uniform that I kept on noticing the clothes of everyone around. That was new for me. Even frightening than the idea of a college. A college for me was another place to study. That was what I thought of what a college would be and also I had some ideas from the movie Main Hun Na. It had released some time back and I remember it vividly because that scene where Mr Shahrukh adjusts his hair and talks with his brother Mr Zayed Khan. I thought of college as a fun place. Moreover, Mr Zayed Khan had long hair in the movie which was also the factor I wanted long hair. Time passed and I adjusted through the college, made some friends and got involved in the daily routine. But now another challenge came up. Years of sitting at the table and no physical activity took a toll on my health and I was way too obese. I had adjusted myself to the usual mockery but maybe times had changed and I decided to do something about it. Six months and 24 kgs later I had transformed myself from this

To this….

I was much more confident than before and had started to grab some eyeballs. I now had started to get a haircut from the shops away from home. It was my friend who pushed me through it. I remember going in a Saloon my friend had recommended. The very formal setting of the saloon was new for me. I was greeted at the reception, then taken to the chair. Other person came to take me to wash my hair. I was clueless why he wanted to wash my hair before the haircut. I was taught that you always washed your hair after getting a haircut. He asked me to lie down on a sofa that had a washbasin attached to its other end. I lied down and the person started to wash my hair. He was kind enough to ask if the water wasnโ€™t too hot or too cold. My hair was washed and I was taken to another sofa and the person who had to cut my hair came. He greeted me again and asked me what style I wanted. This was a big question and I remember looking back at my friend who was watching me. He quickly came near to me and said something to the barber and he started to cut it. The end result was pretty good and I was really excited. It was my first experience with such a costly haircut. That changed me. I still go there. Haha. The following was the result.

But still keeping long hair was a dream and still I wasnโ€™t sure if I would be allowed in my home if i did something of that sort. Haha. However, I did start growing my hair. It was easy at first because I had to do nothing. They kept on growing and ai was involved in my daily classes. They grew to an extent then which was noticeable.

Some months later this came.

And then in some days as my parents left all hope of seeing me get a haircut, I thought why not give my beard a chance as well. Haha. I clicked this to see how bad I could look. Haha

I grew a little longer this than the one you see in the above picture. My parents had given up on me, my neighbours had started to ask me if I was growing my hair for some type of Mannat ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ and my brother would pull my beard whenever he got the chance, mind you not the hair but the beard. Haha

The above two images were taken during my trip to Triund, a short trek from Mcleodganj, Himachal Pradesh. After coming back from this trip, I thought my affair with long hair had to go. Haha. I remember the face of mother and my father when I got a haircut. My mother kissed my forehead many times as if her boy had met her after a long time. Haha. The barber who was cutting my hair asked me atleast thrice if I wanted my hair that small, a picture I had showed him the way i wanted my hair. After a gap of about 3 years I took a haircut and it looked like this.

Everyone was delighted especially my parents. Haha. I kept this haircut for another year and then started growing them again. Haha. But this time it wasnโ€™t so long. This is the most recent image. I kept growing them for six months straight.

But took a haircut this Friday, it was a little too fashionable for me. But I am glad I got it. This time again my barber who has been my barber for four years now, asked me the same. Bhaiya you want it so short. But this time he asked me once. Haha

I know many people who had started to read this post must have left a long time ago because it might come to some as I am boasting off. Thatโ€™s an opinion and I respect all opinions. I have grown to acknowledge the opinions that come from other people that have made me grow as a person. Had I been full of ignorance the opinions would have never changed me. I have always respected the positive and negative comments that I have faced during my time. Sometimes some were too overwhelming for me but I have learnt which one to let me affect. I used to believe in inertia, that a person cannot change the situation that they are in and was too comfortable in that respective situation. However, the outside force, the society has been driving force for all my transformations. I am still pretty much the same boy who had left his school for college. I respect every being, love those who love me but still changed and still transforming. The growth process is organic. It learns from the environment around you, gives you feedback and may turn you into someone you can look up to or someone you might be scared from. The choice sometimes is ours, sometimes choices are forced on us. But generally the choices you take afterwards matter. The choices you would take the first time when you are presented with a situation. Should I help that elderly who is facing troubles changing a tyre in the middle of the road, should I raise my voice in an argument, will calling my server sir lower down my respect. The choice eventually lies with you and you will be the one who will have to live with the results, whether good or bad. Everything here what you have read are my way of telling you that itโ€™s okay to be obese, to be not satisfied with your current situation because opportunities will come to you once you choose to let them in your lives. I had a choice to be obese for the rest of my life. I took a decision and implemented it. However, some days would come when you wouldnโ€™t want to follow your dreams. Take rest in those days. Whatever weight I had lost I gained back again due to stress and many other factors. I had loosened my guard. And itโ€™s perfectly fine because at the end we still are humans and humans make mistakes. I am still working on my other transformation but yes this time I am a lot more body positive than before. Believe me when I say this, if you believe that your body is changing it will change. I have lost 8 kgs in one month with this mindset and of course lots of exercise and diet.

So what was the motive of this post?

I just wanted to tell you, you are okay, you are perfect, the world is a twisted place. Donโ€™t believe everything you hear or see. Try to trust your guts they are your most helpful friends. Donโ€™t stop working on yourself. Try to find happiness in small things because thatโ€™s what I really do. Food from five star hotel may not sometimes satisfy you than a โ‚น5 burger from a stall you think is highly unhygienic. Trust me youโ€™ll lose that extra pound, get that dream job or find a loving partner(I say this even for most of my life I have been single and still single. Haha. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚) as long as you are working. Even if it means a step a day or crawling slowly. Nothing matters, what others opine about you or even what you think of yourselves. Once you start working on yourself everything will fall into background. This process mind you, is very addictive. You may leave it for sometime but eventually you will come back.

If I were to go back to that nervous Harsh back 9 years, the first day of his college, I would hug him and tell him that he will be okay. Each act of kindness creates a ripple in the sands of time that will stand the test of every sin committed or will be committed. I will tell him that itโ€™s okay to not be a part of the herd and think differently. Itโ€™s okay not to disrespect someone for fun or litter even when no oneโ€™s watching. I would tell him to forgive himself for any mistakes he had committed or will commit but will tell him to learn from them, try to implement them in his life. Be kind to others but start with yourself. And most of all, Iโ€™ll ask him to find joy wherever he is at, trust in the process and that he will soon meet wonderful people that will become his family. Have faith.

And for those of you who have very kindly read till the last, please leave a comment. I would love to talk with you. ๐Ÿ˜‡

With lots of love,

Kumar Harsh

70 thoughts on “Getting a haircut..๐Ÿ˜…

  1. First off…. I love this: “Does the sight escape what the vision desires? What is that thing that makes something ? A try at interpretation of everything what lacks an interpreter…… Everything here is original, the quotes, the images, the feelings”…. maybe it’s always on your site but the first time I noticed it. really nice.
    So fun to see you in all of your ages and stages in your life! I could NOT tell you were overweight.
    Love the shorter hair and the one in the pony tail and trimmed beard as well. Your essence shines through in all of them. I can just imagaine your mother kissing your forhead over and over. I thought it was funny when that barber got ahold of you and really cut it short!
    Like you said to love and accept ourselves is the main thing in live. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Haha. Thanks for reading till the end Cindy. I have always been shy about expressing feelings about myself but this blog has helped me that a lot. I am the most open here than anywhere else.
      Thank you Cindy for appreciating. You are the best. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜

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    2. Dear Kumar,

      I concur with Cindy and appreciate your opening up to your readers. We in the modern era live in a more relaxed and tolerant climate in which the forces of globalization, secularization, postmodernity, multiculturalism and social media have combined to allow us to be more expressive, to break with some age-old tradition, and to fuse or appropriate various aspects of genre, class, gender and culture, thus blurring their distinctions and creating new possibilities.

      So, keep letting your hair down and keep up the good work!

      I must commend your command of English. And I appreciate your statements โ€œDoes the sight escape what the vision desires? What is that thing that makes something ? A try at interpretation of everything what lacks an interpreterโ€ฆโ€ฆ Everything here is original, the quotes, the images, the feelingsโ€. However, I would like to caution you against claiming that โ€œEverything here is originalโ€, for the condition required for satisfying that is a very tall order and impossible feat, something that I have discussed in an expansive, analytical post of mine at http://soundeagle.wordpress.com/2017/10/18/the-quotation-fallacy/

      May you and Cindy have a lovely September very soon!

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      1. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your views. Yes, originality can be something that is an illusion of something else. But I like to believe that what I try to create here is one that might not have been said before in a way that I try to. Maybe thatโ€™s original for me, maybe a borrowed idea for someone else. Itโ€™s totally a matter of perspective and I respect all views. ๐Ÿ˜‡
        Thank you so much for stopping by. ๐Ÿ˜‡

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      2. You are very welcome, Kumar.

        I would like to inform you that you might need to use a desktop or laptop computer with a large screen to view the rich multimedia contents available for heightening your multisensory enjoyment at my blog, which could be too powerful and feature-rich for iPad, iPhone, tablet or other portable devices to handle properly or adequately.

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      3. Dear Kumar,

        I would also like to inform you that since my posts and pages contain advanced styling and multimedia components plus animations, it is highly recommended to read my posts and pages directly on the blogs or websites where I have published them, so that you will be able to see and experience all of the refined and glorious details. Hence, it is prudent to refrain from using the WordPress Reader to access my blogs or websites because WordPress Reader can be considerably limited in how closely it reproduces contents of certain blogs or websites, given that it has to deal with a wide range of blogs or websites. It tends to ignore or strip away some styling and formatting components, and also fails to display animations, all of which are aplenty in my posts and pages. As a result, a post or page can look very different and even improper or amiss on the WordPress Reader. So, I tend to read posts and pages directly on the blogs or websites where they are published, especially when they contain animations, advanced styling and detailed intricacies like mine.

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      4. Oh I can understand. WordPress is still in its initial stages, I think. Iโ€™ll be heading to your website as soon as I try to wake up. Haha. I slept really late and now itโ€™s almost noon here. I will share my feedback as and when I see your website on my blog. Thank you so much for responding with the same enthusiasm as I am commenting. Have a great day. ๐Ÿ˜‡

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      5. Hi SoundEagle, Might you have another name you like to refer to or is this it?
        I love your comments and encouragement for Kumar to “Keep letting his hair down” and to keep up the good work! I enjoy your site and your insights! I’lll be seeing you around. Can’t believe it’s already Sept!!! Be well!

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      6. Yes, indeed tis true.. I’ll be off for a walk with the pup dog later tonight. Yes, starting to change alright. You will have new writing pieces. I am hugely relieved by my quieter moments right now.
        Big hugs and always love. โค๏ธ

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      7. Hahaha. Thereโ€™s no comparison Cindy. I am pretty sure whatever you have written must be amazing. You have the art to talk with people. Many donโ€™t have that. You should Post it. ๐Ÿ˜

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      8. Dear Cindy,

        Hello! Thank you for your reply to my first comment on this post of Kumar. In this said post alone, there has since been at least another six comments from me (including this one) following the first one that you just replied to.

        It is fine and dandy to address me as SoundEagle, though if you were to look harder on my website, you can find my real name.

        Given that there has been no “Like” and/or comment from you at my website, I did not realize that you have already visited my website. It would be greatly appreciated if you could kindly reveal how you have enjoyed my website and my insights by submitting your comments at the posts and pages that you have perused, as Kumar have done so at my multimedia post entitled ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽนโ€”THEโ€”๐ŸŽนโ€”LASTโ€”๐ŸŽนโ€”RAGโ€”๐ŸŽน๐ŸŽต๐ŸŽถ, where the featured composition for solo piano can be enjoyed and studied in multiple formats available to you as the audio playbacks, the video captures of score with music, and the gallery of printable score sheets, which can be very helpful and illuminating to those who can also read music.

        May you enjoy the start of autumn! And since the birthstone for September is the sapphire, if you are a lover of gemstones, here’s a post to visit at https://soundeagle.wordpress.com/2012/09/07/soundeagle-in-art-poem-and-gem-%e2%80%95-september-sapphire/

        Happy September to you with the fire of sapphire!

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      9. Hmmmm, thanks for letting me know. I am following you and happy to comment. I am having trouble right now figuring out suscriber and am not getting everything there. I did in fact go on your site from here but could not figure out where to look on the one you are talkig about but will try again. I am hopefully going to figure this out. hmmmm I guess I will refer to you as S.E. if that’s ok to make it a bit eassier to write out. Thanks!!!

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      10. Dear Cindy,

        How strange it is that you are encountering the said issue! Where there is a will there is a way.

        I would like to inform you that you might need to use a desktop or laptop computer with a large screen to view the rich multimedia contents available for heightening your multisensory enjoyment at my blog, which could be too powerful and feature-rich for iPad, iPhone, tablet or other portable devices to handle properly or adequately.

        In addition, since my posts and pages contain advanced styling and multimedia components plus animations, it is highly recommended to read my posts and pages directly on the blogs or websites where I have published them, so that you will be able to see and experience all of the refined and glorious details. Hence, it is prudent to refrain from using the WordPress Reader to access my blogs or websites because WordPress Reader can be considerably limited in how closely it reproduces contents of certain blogs or websites, given that it has to deal with a wide range of blogs or websites. It tends to ignore or strip away some styling and formatting components, and also fails to display animations, all of which are aplenty in my posts and pages. As a result, a post or page can look very different and even improper or amiss on the WordPress Reader. So, I tend to read posts and pages directly on the blogs or websites where they are published, especially when they contain animations, advanced styling and detailed intricacies like mine.

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      11. I use my iMac and that’s as big as I get. Your site is beautiful and a lot to take im with colors, songs, games, visuals etc. Bigger font would help me and a break down with space and blank between color honestly.

        That is good to know about reader but I do NOT want everything comong to my email which is constant bombardment.
        I do need to figure that out.

        With that said, I did visit and comment. Beautiful Site. Take care in Sept.

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      12. Dear Cindy,

        The use of the Reader does not have any bearing on email. I actually meant NOT to use the Reader to view my website, but to view my website by visiting it in situ.

        It seems that you are the first to mention wanting bigger fonts. I have just doublechecked my website, and the default font used in the body of my posts and pages is a large font, not medium or small. For headings and subheadings, the fonts are (much) larger, if not oversized. Some of the fonts used in certain captions and widgets can be smaller or larger, depending on contexts. The legibility has been further enhanced by advanced formatting, styling, padding and demarcating between and within sections and components.

        Thank you for your feedback and compliments.

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      13. Thanks for the clarification!! I’ll try to go directly to your site from now on but not sure I’ll be notified.
        It’s probably me. I know enough to be dangerous sadly but learning all the time. Thanks and uyou are so welcome that I gave you the feedback and awknoledgement on your GREAT work.m

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    1. This was straight from the heart Yeshu. I would have never said these things to anyone in person because most of the times they are bottled inside me, except for some. Haha. Thank you so much for acknowledging. ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜ฌ
      And indeed yes itโ€™s okay not to be okay. ๐Ÿ˜‡โ˜บ๏ธ

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  2. Straight from the heart. I loved every word of it. Your sentiments are truly genuine and pure. Also, parents will be parents and neighbors will be neighbors. I laughed so hard on the “mannat” bit. ๐Ÿ˜„

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    1. Thank you so much Tanya. I am glad you did. I try to speak the truth even if it is my emotions or anything else. I am a very bad liar. Haha. ๐Ÿ˜… My parents although apprehensive at first have always supported my decision, though they always asked me when I would get a haircut. Haha. My neighbors, they couldnโ€™t digest the fact that being doctors my parents had allowed me to grow my hair that long. Haha. But my parents always handled it. Thank you so much for reading till the end. ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡ i hope you enjoyed reading.

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  3. The growth process is organic. It learns from the environment around you, gives you feedback and may turn you into someone you can look up to or someone you might be scared from. The choice sometimes is ours, sometimes choices are forced on us… simple, yet heart touching good post..๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. I really enjoyed how through something as simple as a haircut, you gave your readers a journey of your growth. This is a heartwarming post! I really like your hairstyle on the trip to Triund! Thank you for writing this, Harsh.

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    1. Thank you Rishika. This post was entirely meant for anyone who might need an assurance that things do get better with time, atleast thatโ€™s what I have experienced. ๐Ÿ˜‡
      Haha, that hairstyle has so many memories with it.
      Thank you Rishika for reading this little piece of my mind and heart. ๐Ÿ˜‡ Have a great day. ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

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    1. Thank you Lily. This was all unexpected, I was really anxious how it would turn out. The hair and everything else. But as they say, weโ€™ll never know if didnโ€™t try. Haha. Thank you again for stopping by and reading. Also, thank you for the compliment. You made my day. ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜‡

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